It's not alright!

Single, 28 years old. And looking for marriage. Previously, disappointed by fiancee, and family is not making things easier. The place I live in Mzimba, I am surrounded by MSCE school leavers whom parents wish to push forward to get their degrees. At the end of the first degree, the parents of my fiancee pushed her to get a graduate degree. I had just finished my graduate degree then. So, we did not end up married up to this day. And I am surrounded by temptation.

Does not Paul advise Corinthians that it is better to get married than burn with passions? I am a Christian. Getting married in church has better safety for me than anything else. Marriage is what have been asked to wait for abstaining from sex in avoidance of HIV, marriage is what I have been advised as my gateway to sexual fulfillment.

Hebrews 13:4 does say, marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled. But how shall I get married if parents cling to their children? How shall I get married if churches don't open doors for me to get married?

Considering teenage pregnancies, it used to custom then if a boy has made pregnant a girl, the boy will have to marry the girl. These days, this does not get you a wife. The girl will be allowed by their parents to abort and you still don't have a wife, but you can eventually get hiv for you don't know how many babies your girl has aborted trying to get married and parents resisting.

Oh, yeah condoms. How many sexual partners? How many sexual partners for my sexual fulfillment? How many sexual partners for my sexual fulfillment?

Condoms is an easier idea, governments can think of? What about marriage?

Being C.E.O. of my own company at such an age, is more than enough gate pass for me to getting laid. But suppose, I just get laid without a permanent basis of marriage, shall I expect to use condoms the rest of my life? For yeah! one accidental day I might get tired, and throw it away.

Somebody said, sweet ya m'pepala siyimakoma. I know shall at one time say the same condomizing the rest of my life. Even hiv I shall cease to fear. For if life does not get you the happiness of marriage its better off lived even on a count down of hiv living it down happily. The world ending anyway but that will definitely get me a closed door into heaven.

Maybe its time I considered celibacy but by the time I reach forty, I shall be anyone's sugar daddy even if my intentions are legitimate. Better, I still try to get married. For I do not know how long I can stand temptation. There are many possibilities of accidental afternoons.

I shall consider going to some city place were graduated ladies like residing. And especially to my marriage tolerant sister. I am sure there is a lady waiting there. I shall ask her for marriage.

I remember, my cousin had to get herself a patched up wedding: officiated by an Seventh Day Adventist Church Pastor, during a CCAP Church Service and Reception in a Roman Catholic Hall. It was a classic.

Considering the difficulty of getting married, sometimes its like when you have a chance to get married, don't miss it. Things are not ok at all!

You live this long expecting the praying community who have been advising you well and you have faithfully pursued their advise and now comes the time it feels like great betrayal if you have to go against these principles again by trying to secure a marriage with a pregnancy.

I left my android playing some music and I woke up to a song by my brother William (X-K)

It's Ok, if its not alright, wipe your tears babe don't cry. It's Ok, if its not alright, don't give up if you know you can try.

It's Ok, because its not alright. There is no reason to cry. Things are not ok its not our fault. It's a broken society.

I must go to my marriage tolerant sister in Mzuzu. I might get some help.

Mile's Back: Costing

So, you use Information Technology to cut down costs and increase productivity. Of course, in theory costs are expected to get cut but in reality, service providers see the little that gets paid and are unsatisfied. They would rather charge more for this important technology that makes working cheap and makes big profits.

Most costs are dependent on acquisition of equipment, maintainance of equipment and labour costs in terms of salaries for the isp's employees. Of these, their are costs that directly apply to the service itself and other which apply indirectly.

In terms of labour, you look at engineers as direct labour costs and administrative positions come under indirect labour eg, accountants, secretaries, drivers, managers. The costs of indirect labour and direct labour apply separately.

Other than labour, there are also material costs, some of which apply directly and some indirectly. For example, cost of maintaining a transmitter is a direct maintainance cost and cost of maintaining a vehicle is an indirect maintainance cost. The cost of buying a fuse to fix a transformer is a direct cost for a company like escom, and cost of buying a fuse to fix a car is an indirect cost.

So then when you separate these costs, you are able to make priorities with the budget you have. Under strenuous circumstances you might consider to priorities the direct costs as they are the ones that get you more moneys.

The indirect costs though less priorities but greatly affect the loss and profit. If neglected, its a loss you have trace where it comes from if recognized you can save a lot of costs and put yourself on the profitable side.

So, then in an Information Technology company, the Engineers, are more critical than the rest of the employees, the production equipment more critical than operational equipment. Setting priorities in this way, creates a better base for your IT start up.

I might have to put in the maths later as we proceed.

Kondwani C. Hara is C.E.O. and Chief Consultant at Oispr IT.

Mile's Back:A Start Up

I have noticed that most IT professionals fail to start their own businesses and/or companies for lack of business skills, non-standard pricing which in the end leads to their loss and customer loss of trust.

From my attempt to start up a consultancy I have learned, and achieved with difficulty trying to price my services.

I will try within my possible means to share my experience and information as well as what I have learned through the Labour Sponsored Start Your Business Course. I do not know the copyright issues involved yet if I am to share it on my blog, but I do would like to be contacted immediately if my action will violate any copyrights.

I previously wanted to make software out of but I was advised against it for copyrights involved. I would encouraged the ILO people who prepared this course to contact me if they wish to support the creation of the software for use by those that get trained the course. I might decide to just go ahead and create it for personal use and later add components to it for sale. I hope that will no longer be violation.

Where shall I start? Basic business principles? I will have to sit down at home and compile that.

Right now I am waiting for my bus to get started and get me home to Mzimba.

Interesting from Malasha Bus Today

So, I am on my way to Mzimba from Mzuzu. I am looking for a bus. I find one Malasha bus going to Lilongwe via Mzimba. I ask:
- How much is it to Mzimba? K700
- What time is the bus leaving? When it is full.
- Do you carry seated passengers only or you wait for standing passengers? Seated only.

At this moment I am abit pleased but I have to think it over.

Usually, a conductor can say a lot of things to a passenger just to have them pay. Minibus operators have disappointed many by even dropping passengers enroute before reaching the destination. The same Malasha Bus at one time failed my trip by diverting their normal route even without the local Malasha office knowing.

So, I have to confirm one more thing. Suppose of these that you have said, I find them good conditions. But you can say this just to make me pay and then disappoint me later. Will you give me my money back if you do not satisfy these conditions? The best thing we can do is, get in find a seat, you will pay when the bus is going. Ok, I get in. Now waiting for the bus to be full.